180. "I've tried that" | Getting What You Want | Self-Worth and Self-Trust Opened Up

The host warmly introduces the episode, encouraging listeners to reflect on whether they are truly showing up as the women they want to be, regardless of their circumstances. She acknowledges the struggles many women face—such as challenging family dynamics or past traumas—and emphasizes the importance of welcoming support and developing new skills. The episode invites women to consider coaching as a way to bridge the gap between intention and action, reassuring them that they already have what it takes to change.

The core theme centers around shifting from a mindset of 'trying' to 'mastery.' The host explains that many women label their efforts as 'trying,' which often implies an eventual failure or giving up when obstacles arise. Instead, she advocates for a mindset of mastery—acknowledging that true success comes from persistent, consistent effort over time. She underscores that mastery is not about being without struggle but about owning the process and showing up even when it's hard. The narrative emphasizes that persistence, not personality traits, builds lasting self-trust and self-worth.

This section delves into how the phrase 'I've tried that' acts as a silent defeat, cloaking the true reason why women often give up—fear of failure, self-doubt, or worthiness issues. The host highlights how the stories behind why efforts are abandoned are usually rooted in beliefs about not being worthy or capable. She encourages listeners to see these stories as opportunities for growth rather than barriers, urging them to reframe their narrative from 'I've tried' to 'I've mastered,' which empowers a mindset of ongoing perseverance.

This theme explores the deeper issues of self-worth and self-trust that underlie many women’s struggles to pursue their desires. The host discusses how beliefs about not being deserving or not having enough support often prevent women from acting on their goals. She explains that shame and blame are tools the mind uses to protect us from painful truths—like the fact that we might doubt ourselves or feel unworthy. Recognizing these beliefs is presented as a crucial step toward rebuilding confidence and trust.

The episode offers tangible action steps: first, openly stating what you want to others to solidify your worth; second, committing to small, consistent actions that honor your desires. The 'safe framework'—Specific, Aware, Fiercely aligned, Effective—guides women in honest communication and effective problem-solving. The host emphasizes the importance of follow-through, illustrating how tiny promises kept daily build trust in oneself over time. These actionable practices aim to recondition women’s minds and bodies to see themselves as capable and deserving.

Here, the host clarifies that true success isn't about effortless achievement but about owning the process, especially when faced with resistance and setbacks. Using her personal story of running a mountain trail race, she demonstrates perseverance, mindset, and self-support as keys to mastery. She stresses that the real goal is developing clarity and confidence to persist through challenges, not avoiding hardship itself.

This section examines common internal obstacles, like believing support isn't available or fearing that time would be wasted. The host reveals that these are often surrogates for deeper self-worth issues—such as feeling unworthy of time and self-care, or fearing that one might not use support well. Recognizing these hidden beliefs helps women confront the real reasons they hold back, paving the way for honest communication and self-compassion.

The episode discusses how blame—toward partners, children, circumstances—serves as a defense mechanism to avoid confronting self-worth issues. The host emphasizes that blame keeps women stuck in victim mentality and prevents authentic growth. True empowerment comes from acknowledging responsibility for one's life and choices, which lays the foundation for genuine change.

This theme highlights that awareness of self-sabotage and the willingness to face uncomfortable truths are vital for growth. Small, consistent actions—keeping promises to oneself—are presented as the practical pathway to rebuilding trust and worth. These tiny commitments, repeated daily, accumulate into a deep sense of confidence and mastery, ultimately enabling women to pursue their biggest goals.

The host concludes with reassurance that change is within reach and that the evidence of mastery is in the daily commitments women make to themselves. She encourages taking immediate action by expressing desires aloud and following through on simple promises. The episode ends with an invitation to connect for personalized coaching, emphasizing that the journey to self-trust and fulfillment begins now.