The Momset Podcast
177. Regret, Sadness and Motherhood | Feeling on Purpose
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Key takeaways
- You have the power to choose who you want to be as a mother and person right now, regardless of circumstances.
- Being present and grateful for each moment helps avoid feelings of guilt and regret.
- Feeling sad or tired is natural; paying the emotional ‘debt’ of these feelings upfront prevents regret later.
- Viewing life's challenges as opportunities instead of setbacks fosters resilience and growth.
- Living intentionally in the present creates meaningful, sacred experiences that are irreplaceable.
- Shifting your perspective to see everything as happening for you enables a more resilient and grateful outlook on life.
- Embracing vulnerability in love and motherhood enriches relationships and personal growth.
Summary
The Power of Personal Choice and Shift in Motherhood
The speaker emphasizes that women have the ability to become who they want to be right now, regardless of current circumstances. By making a conscious decision to change and adapt, women can cultivate strength and faith. Her personal evolution into a strong-minded, faith-driven woman demonstrates that transformation is possible through internal effort and perspective shifts.
The Significance of Presence and Gratitude in Parenting
A vivid recounting of observing her children engaging in daily activities like watering the garden and riding bikes highlights their personalities and the joy these moments bring. The speaker reflects on profound gratitude for these experiences, noting that recognizing the sacredness of the present moment helps avoid feelings of guilt and regret. She encourages listeners to fully embrace and savor their current moments with an attitude of gratitude, recognizing their uniqueness.
Understanding and Embracing Feelings of Sadness, Guilt, and Regret
The podcast discusses that feelings such as guilt, regret, and sadness are healthy and natural. The key is that we are the creators of our emotions, primarily through our thoughts and perspectives. By paying attention to how thoughts influence feelings, mothers can choose their responses intentionally. The speaker advocates for paying the emotional dues of sadness or tiredness upfront, as avoiding these feelings leads to regret later, especially regarding missed opportunities for connection and joy.
Living Fully in the Moment and Recognizing Its Sacredness
The speaker urges listeners to view each moment as a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity. She shares her own perspective on aging and the fleeting nature of time, emphasizing that even challenging moments are precious. Being present allows women to create meaningful experiences, love deeply, and avoid future regret. Recognizing the transient nature of life helps women answer the call to be fully engaged and intentional.
Shifting Perspective to See Everything as For You
A mindset shift is encouraged where life’s difficulties and surprises are viewed as opportunities rather than obstacles. The example of her husband’s ankle injury illustrates how setbacks become chances for service and connection. The overarching message is that perceiving life as happening for you fosters resilience, gratitude, and a proactive attitude towards all experiences.
The Vulnerability and Courage of Loving and Being Present
Living in the moment involves vulnerability because it requires embracing love and joy fully, knowing these moments are fleeting. The speaker discusses the importance of removing fear, judgment, and victimhood to appreciate one's unique journey. This mindset fosters a deeper love for oneself, others, and the present, helping moms enjoy their days without regret.
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Show notes
Your thoughts create your feelings and there is tremendous opportunity to bring gentle thoughts into your vulnerable feelings as a mother.
It's likely we will all feel sad in the fleeting time of motherhood when we observe the growing faces and personalities of our children.
What we choose to do with that vulnerable feeling is what we will absolutely love or deeply regret.
You can feel sad and love the reason why you feel sad.
You can feel sad and love what you do next- jumping up and running through the sprinklers with your kids because you realize this is the time you get to do this!
To get details of the mastermind with me, email connect@momset.com with details of who you want to become.
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