How to Become the Most Confident Version of Yourself & Step Into Your Power

Key takeaways

Accept and embrace all parts of your story—mistakes, struggles, successes—to reclaim your confidence and personal power.
Self-compassion and viewing your life as a whole, divine 'movie' helps to heal past regrets and cringe moments, fostering growth and resilience.
Power is a flow of authenticity, humility, and resilience—it's not a destination but a continuous process of being and becoming.
Open your 'cupboard'—be honest about your ingredients (gifts, flaws, experiences)—to gain power and create space for growth.
Speak your future into existence by verbalizing and sharing your aspirations, which helps to create external space for your growth.
Trust in divine purpose and order, recognizing that your life and experiences are part of a larger plan that contributes to making the world better.
Give yourself permission to evolve, step into multiple versions of yourself, and understand that confidence is about owning your whole story—success and failure alike.

Summary

Finding Hope and Confidence in Challenging Times

This section explores the core theme of the episode: providing listeners with hope, motivation, and a renewed sense of confidence when overwhelmed by life's challenges. Mel Robbins introduces Sarah Jakes Roberts as a source of inspiration and strength, describing how her story of overcoming personal and societal shame—such as being pregnant at 13—resonates deeply. The focus is on learning how to shift from being defeated by past mistakes to reclaiming personal power and confidence, emphasizing that change and reinvention are always possible.

Sarah Jakes Roberts’ Personal Journey and Message of Self-Compassion

Sarah shares her life story, including her teenage pregnancy, her family's high-profile role, and her experiences with shame and insecurity. She emphasizes the importance of accepting all parts of oneself—past mistakes, struggles, and achievements—and advocates for choosing self-compassion over self-punishment. She describes her process of reconciling with her past, recognizing that her experiences have contributed to her wisdom, strength, and authenticity today. Her message encourages listeners to look at their entire life story with love and compassion, understanding that every experience shapes who they are meant to become.

The Power of Self-Discovery and Authenticity

This section delves into the importance of opening up about one’s true story—sharing both struggles and triumphs—to cultivate authenticity and strength. Sarah discusses her metaphor of 'opening the cupboard'—being honest about all ingredients of one’s life (gifts, mistakes, vulnerabilities)—to reclaim power and create space for growth. By embracing who they truly are, listeners can begin to let love and authenticity flow outward, building confidence and inspiring others. The conversation highlights that our greatest power lies in being genuine and fully owning our story.

Healing Through Reframing and Perspective-Shifting

Sarah emphasizes that regret and cringe moments are often reactions to judging ourselves based on isolated scenes rather than understanding our entire 'movie.' She advocates for viewing one’s life as a whole, with compassion for the past, recognizing the divine order in life’s unfolding. This perspective allows for healing and reframing painful experiences as necessary steps that lead to growth. She discusses how looking at life with love, rather than judgment, opens the door for forgiveness, understanding, and ultimately, empowerment.

Living Out Loud and Creating Space for Future Growth

This section discusses the importance of speaking one’s intentions and future self into existence. Sarah advocates for openly sharing aspirations with others and using words and actions to create an environment where growth is inevitable. She stresses that power flows through authenticity, humility, and resilience, and that transformation is a constant process—each small act builds momentum toward becoming the most confident version of oneself. The metaphor of ‘letting your future live outside of you’ illustrates how externalizing goals and identity creates room for new possibilities.

The Role of Faith, Divine Order, and Purpose

Sarah speaks about her faith and belief in divine order, highlighting that even the most cringeworthy moments have purpose and are part of a bigger plan. She shares her own experience of divine reassurance during moments of doubt and how trusting God's knowledge of her potential has been instrumental in her journey. She encourages people of faith—and even those without—to see their existence as intentional and vital to making the world better. Her message emphasizes that everyone has a role in this divine design, and recognizing that purpose fuels confidence and resilience.

Empowerment Through Self-Realization and Permission to Be Authentic

Sarah advocates for giving oneself permission to evolve and step into new identities. She discusses how life is a continuous process of unfolding multiple versions of oneself—past, present, and future—and how acknowledging and owning all parts builds authentic confidence. The conversation underscores that power is a flow—authenticity, humility, and resilience working together—and that confidence is about accepting all facets of oneself without swaying by success or failure. Ultimately, the episode inspires listeners to embrace their unique paths and to see their life stories as divine, meaningful, and worthy of celebration.

Show notes

Today, you’re going to hear one of the most emotional and inspiring episodes that has ever been on The Mel Robbins Podcast.

When the world feels overwhelming…

When you’re discouraged…

When you feel beaten up by life…

When you’re tired of carrying the past around…

This is the episode to press play on.

In this powerful episode, Mel revisits her conversation with Sarah Jakes Roberts, with a brand-new introduction and new insights for right now.

This is a conversation Mel personally returns to when she needs hope, motivation, optimism, and a reminder that change is possible.

Sarah Jakes Roberts is a New York Times bestselling author, pastor, and speaker. Pregnant at 13, married by 19, divorced by 22, and all while under the intense scrutiny as the daughter of a famous mega-church pastor, Sarah knows what it’s like to be knocked down. But more importantly, she shares what it takes to get back up.

In this conversation, she is going to show you how to stop letting one mistake, one season, one heartbreak, or one painful scene become your entire identity.

Sarah teaches you what it truly means to be powerful, how to reclaim your confidence, and how to create a new version of yourself.

If you or someone you love needs hope, forgiveness, and a way forward, this is the exact episode to listen to today.

You are so much more powerful than you know. And Sarah Jakes Roberts will convince you of that.

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