Three Rules
Ryan Holiday shares 3 rules for life
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Key takeaways
- Reading extensively is vital; it allows you to learn from the mistakes and successes of others rather than relying solely on your own experiences.
- Mentorship should evolve naturally; seek out relationships with those who inspire you and can provide guidance, but do not expect formal arrangements.
- Initially embrace opportunities, but as you grow, learn to say no to distractions to maintain your focus on what truly matters.
Summary
Rule #1: Always Be Reading
Ryan stresses the importance of reading as a critical means of learning. By reading both successes and failures from those who have come before us, we can gain invaluable insights and avoid common pitfalls. He emphasizes that while consuming current media like news can often be fleeting or misleading, reading books that have stood the test of time provides knowledge with a longer shelf-life. This consistent habit of reading allows individuals to leverage the collective experiences of others, enriching their own understanding and personal development.
Rule #2: Seek Out Mentors
Ryan highlights the significance of mentorship in personal and professional growth. He points out that mentorship isn’t always a formal relationship but something that should develop naturally over time. He recounts his journey and how working as an apprentice allowed him to learn from seasoned writers. He encourages listeners to seek mentors who have navigated paths similar to their own and to foster relationships organically, rather than expecting formal arrangements. Ryan also notes that mentors can take many forms, including those we may never meet in person.
Rule #3: Say Yes. Then Say No.
This rule discusses the balance between seizing opportunities and maintaining focus. In the beginning phases of your journey, it’s important to say 'yes' to many opportunities in order to gain experience and exposure. However, as one progresses, the need to decline distractions becomes paramount. Ryan explains that becoming great at one thing requires the ability to say no to everything else that competes for one's time and attention. He emphasizes developing a clear understanding of priorities and the confidence to establish boundaries to protect one's mental and creative space.
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Show notes
I’m joined by Ryan Holiday, bestselling author of 'The Obstacle Is the Way’ and ‘Ego Is the Enemy’. His latest book, ‘Right Thing, Right Now’, is all about how building character can change your life’. On the podcast Ryan shares three rules that helped him find success & happiness.
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Follow Ryan: instagram.com/ryanholiday Chapters 00:00 Intro 00:46 Rule #1: Always be reading. 02:45 Rule #2: Seek out mentors 07:50 Rule #3: Say yes. Then say no.
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